I was reading Surah Maryam today and these verses really hit me with how far we are from the character and good manners that the Prophets practised.
وَاذْكُرْ فِي الْكِتَابِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ ۚ إِنَّهُ كَانَ صِدِّيقًا نَبِيًّا
And mention in the Book [the story of] Abraham. Indeed, he was a man of truth and a prophet.
إِذْ قَالَ لِأَبِيهِ يَا أَبَتِ لِمَ تَعْبُدُ مَا لَا يَسْمَعُ وَلَا يُبْصِرُ وَلَا يُغْنِي عَنْكَ شَيْئًا
[Mention] when he said to his father, “O my father, why do you worship that which does not hear and does not see and will not benefit you at all?
يَا أَبَتِ إِنِّي قَدْ جَاءَنِي مِنَ الْعِلْمِ مَا لَمْ يَأْتِكَ فَاتَّبِعْنِي أَهْدِكَ صِرَاطًا سَوِيًّا
O my father, indeed there has come to me of knowledge that which has not come to you, so follow me; I will guide you to an even path.
يَا أَبَتِ لَا تَعْبُدِ الشَّيْطَانَ ۖ إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ كَانَ لِلرَّحْمَٰنِ عَصِيًّا
O my father, do not worship Satan. Indeed Satan has ever been, to the Most Merciful, disobedient.
يَا أَبَتِ إِنِّي أَخَافُ أَنْ يَمَسَّكَ عَذَابٌ مِنَ الرَّحْمَٰنِ فَتَكُونَ لِلشَّيْطَانِ وَلِيًّا
O my father, indeed I fear that there will touch you a punishment from the Most Merciful so you would be to Satan a companion [in Hellfire].”
(Surah Maryam: 41-45)
SubhanAllah look at how Ibrahim عليه سلام spoke to his father, with the utmost respect calling him by يا أبتِ ‘O my father’. Calling his father from the worship of Shaytaan to the worship of Allah in a kind, respectful manner.
And look to see how his father responded,
قَالَ أَرَاغِبٌ أَنْتَ عَنْ آلِهَتِي يَا إِبْرَاهِيمُ ۖ لَئِنْ لَمْ تَنْتَهِ لَأَرْجُمَنَّكَ ۖ وَاهْجُرْنِي مَلِيًّا
[His father] said, “Have you no desire for my gods, O Abraham? If you do not desist, I will surely stone you, so avoid me a prolonged time.”
(Surah Maryam: 46)
His father threatened to kill him and rejected his Dawah.
How did Ibrahim عليه سلام respond? If it was anyone else today from us we would have sworn, yelled, shouted, threatened back, lost all manners and even before this step we would not bother to give Dawah in this manner to our families rather we would judge them into eternal hellfire!
Look at how Ibrahim عليه سلام the friend of Allah responded
قَالَ سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكَ ۖ سَأَسْتَغْفِرُ لَكَ رَبِّي ۖ إِنَّهُ كَانَ بِي حَفِيًّا
[Abraham] said, “Peace will be upon you. I will ask forgiveness for you of my Lord. Indeed, He is ever gracious to me.
وَأَعْتَزِلُكُمْ وَمَا تَدْعُونَ مِنْ دُونِ اللَّهِ وَأَدْعُو رَبِّي عَسَىٰ أَلَّا أَكُونَ بِدُعَاءِ رَبِّي شَقِيًّا
And I will leave you and those you invoke other than Allah and will invoke my Lord. I expect that I will not be in invocation to my Lord unhappy.”
(Surah Maryam: 47-48)
SubhanAllah and what did Allah bestow upon Prophet Ibrahim عليه سلام
فَلَمَّا اعْتَزَلَهُمْ وَمَا يَعْبُدُونَ مِنْ دُونِ اللَّهِ وَهَبْنَا لَهُ إِسْحَاقَ وَيَعْقُوبَ ۖ وَكُلًّا جَعَلْنَا نَبِيًّا
So when he had left them and those they worshipped other than Allah, We gave him Isaac and Jacob, and each [of them] We made a prophet.
وَوَهَبْنَا لَهُمْ مِنْ رَحْمَتِنَا وَجَعَلْنَا لَهُمْ لِسَانَ صِدْقٍ عَلِيًّا
And We gave them of Our mercy, and we made for them a reputation of high honor.
(Surah Maryam: 49-50)
He was honoured with prophethood, granted children, had the Mercy of Allah bestowed upon them and given a reputation of high honour.
The next time you are about to have an argument with your parents, remember the story of Ibrahim عليه سلام.
May Allah forgive us for our shortcomings in the way we give Dawah to others..